Times are finally changing. Posted on the Emily Post website is an answer to a couple in their late twenties that it’s perfectly ok to ask for cash for a down payment on a house instead of traditional wedding gifts. What matters is that as a couple you are able to state your preferences for wedding gifts, through a registry or by getting the word out through friends and family, but it’s up to the wedding guests to choose what to give you.

What we have found in our research for ListCharming is that overwhelmingly, most wedding guests want to get you something that you’ll actually love an enjoy. ListCharming is perfect for saying exactly what you’d like, in an elegant and tasteful way, and saves a lot of the awkwardness of telling people to write checks. Rather than relying on attendants or family to get the word out, you can include a link to your ListCharming registry on your wedding website for guests to discover on their own.